مُشكلة حقيقية : زواج الأبناء والبنات .. في بلاد الشتات !

Quote: Salam Eid Mubrack: I saw your post on Sudaneseonline. This is a SERIOUS issue and very sensitive for Sudanese females living in the USA. I have four sudanese female friends and we are all facing this issue. All five of us are college graduates and working professionals. Two out of the five of us are actually Doctors. It is difficult for us since in our culture we simply cannot run around and advertise ourselves, but at the same time we all have reached an age (late 20's - 30) when we are ready to settle down. I am not sure where you are residing, and it's a little funny that you are starting to think about your young kids ages 10, and 8 :). I think our problem as Sudanese is that we are very complicated...and we complicate things more than we should and we really have some customs that we need to let go of. For example I read the post from someone who mentioned how in KSA they came up with the solution of creating a CV for every single female/male and sending it to the Embassy and the embassy was going to help match people ....when the guy asked the mother of three females if she submitted them she yelled " malom hom bayrat wala bayrat" and the idea failed. I think it failed probably due to us complicating things, and thinking "oh, if we submit ourselves on CV to the embassy it means we are "bayrat". We simply need to be more open minded.... or we will never be able to solve this sensitive problem. I do have a few ideas on how to solve the problem or attempt to solve it. If we look at other nationalities living here in the US for example the Libyan community.... they hold a national conference every year specifically for young women and men to meet. I think this is a good solution for those young Sudanese men who always complain "I want to get married, but I cannot find any Sudanese females in the USA, or I do not know any". From what I know is that not only do the males and females attend the conference but the entire family. This is a good approach because everyone who attends is going to be serious. The second idea is making a website similiar to Muslima.com or any other popular matching websites. The website would be a database for sudanese all around the world, and the person can do the search based on their location, or the location they prefer. One of the issues is that not everyone on the website is guaranteed to be serious. You will always attract non-serious individuals who only want to waste their time and other's time, even if the website had a fee associated with us I think some people can still abuse it or not take it seriously. What are your ideas? Thanks, Sudaneya