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The Great thing called "love"
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((((((LOOOOOOOVE))))))))
Passionate love which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions. Companionate love is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you.
Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.
Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.
Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).
Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.
Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.
Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.
Is there love at first sight?
This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.
Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time?
This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.
Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing, And your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't Love, it's Like. You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right?
It isn't Love, it's Lust. Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't Love, it's Luck. Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't Love, it's Loneliness. Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't Love, it's Loyalty. Do you stay for their confessions of Love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't Love, it's Pity. Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?
It isn't Love, it's being Unconfident. Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?
It isn't Love, it's Infatuation. Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't Love, it's Friendship. Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of?
It isn't Love, it's a Lie. Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake?
It isn't Love, it's Charity. Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's Love. Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret?
Then it's Love. Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's Love. Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?
Then it's Love. Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's Love. But do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and elation pulls you close and holds you?
Then it's Love. Would you give them your heart, your life, your death?
Then it's Love.
Now, if Love is painful, and tortures us so, why do we Love? Why is it all we search for in life? This pain, this agony? Why is it all we long for? This torture, this powerful death of self? Why? Because it's... Love
(((SOME SIGNS OF TRUE LOVE))))
You get joy from making your love happy.
You have no interest in others who would normally attract you.
When you long to be in your love's arms every second of the day.
It actually feels like your feelings are physically coming from your heart.
When you think of your love and smile no matter how hard your day has been.
You see your love with all their imperfections, yet know they are perfect for you.
(((((Overcoming a Broken Heart ))))
Step One:
Allow yourself time to heal, and know that you can heal. Whether the loss is due to death, rejection, or other reason. It is normal to grieve over a loss of a love for any reason. It usually takes two to three years for a couple whose relationship has broken up to begin to put their lives back together again. It sometimes takes five years for individuals and families to get over the emotional pain and trauma. Many people can have serious health and emotional problems during this time.
Step Two:
Realize that you still can find happiness. Realize that you can control how you think, what you think about, and how much. A key is to concentrate on the positives you have in the present. Not thinking about the future or past. Healing Helpers
Being around people and getting involved in helping others is a good way to accelerate the proces of healing. Laughing helps too, so see a comedy, watch funny things. That is part of the reason the Irish have a party when someone passes away. Helping others helps you loose sight of your own losses
Step Three:
Activily work to feel better. Act happy and smile. Even if you don't feel that way, it should start to make you feel that way. Life will be better.If you love something...let it go, if it comes back to you it was truly meant to be.
When one door of happiness closes, another opens: but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.
((((Arguments and fighting in a relationship))))
How you argue when in a relationship can determine if you have a relationship that falls apart or lasts. Things to avoid when arguing or fighting with your relationship partner:
criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling (withdrawing from talking) Good things to use in an argument:
Using humor to break tension in an argument. Expressions of affection for your partner. Acknowledge your partners point of view. Two key things about a relationship:
It is important to build and maintain a FRIENDSHIP in your relationship and that you give your partner the benefit of the doubt when times are tough... namely TRUST! You have a choice of either saying something that will nurture or rip up your relationship every time... think before you speak!
Ways to say "I LOVE YOU" in many languages
Here are the ways to say "I love you" in many languages. LANGUAGE I LOVE YOU COMMENTS Afrikaans Ek het jou liefe Ek is lief vir jou Albanian te dua te dashuroj Alentejano Gosto De Ti, Porra! Portugal Alsacien Ich hoan dich gear Amharic Afekrishalehou Arabic Ana Behibak (to a male) Ana Behibek (to a female) Ib'n hebbak. Ana Ba-heb-bak nhebuk Ohiboke (male to female) Ohiboka (female to male) Ohibokoma (male or female to two males or two females) Nohiboke (more than one male or female to female) Nohiboka (male to male or female to male) Nohibokoma (m. to m. or f. to two males or two females) Nohibokom (m. to m. or f. to more than two males) Nohibokon (m. to m. or f. to more than two females) (not standard) Bahibak (female to male) (not standard) Bahibik (male to female) (not standard) Benhibak (more than one male or female to male) (not standard) Benhibik (male to male or female to female) (not standard) Benhibkom (m. to m. or female to more than one male) Armenian Siroum em kez Thanks Mike Assamese Moi tomak bhal pau Basc Nere Maitea Batak Holong rohangku di ho Bavarian I mog di narrisch gern Bengali Ami tomAy bhAlobAshi Ami tomake bhalobashi. Berber Lakh tirikh Bicol Namumutan ta ka Bolivian Quechua qanta munani Bulgarian Obicham te Burmese chit pa de Cambodian Bon sro lanh oon kh_nhaum soro_lahn nhee_ah Canadian French Sh'teme (spoken, sounds like this) Cantonese Moi oiy neya Ngo oi ney Chinese Catalan T'estim (mallorcan) T'estim molt (I love you a lot) T'estime (valencian) T'estimo (catalonian) Cebuano Gihigugma ko ikaw. Chickasaw chiholloli (first "i" nasalized) American Indian Chinese (see the entries for mandarin or cantonese!) Corsican Ti tengu cara (to female) Ti tengu caru (to male) Croatian & Serbian Ljubim te "means to kiss you" Ya te volim "I love you" or Volim te "I love you" Thanks to tanya karlovic for corrections Czech miluji te MILUJU TE! (colloquial form) Danish Jeg elsker dig Dutch Ik hou van jou Ik ben verliefd op je Ecuador Quechua canda munani English I love you Esperanto Mi amas vin Estonian Mina armastan sind Ma armastan sind Farsi Tora dust midaram Asheghetam (Persian) doostat dAram Filipino Mahal ki ta Iniibig Kita Finnish Mina" rakastan sinua Flemish Ik zie oe geerne French Je t'aime Je t'adore
Friesian Ik hald fan dei Gaelic Ta gra agam ort German Ich liebe Dich Greek s'ayapo (spoken s'agapo, 3rd letter is lower case'gamma') (old) (Ego) philo su (ego is only needed for emphasis) Greenlandic Asavakit Gujrati Hoon tane pyar karoochhoon. Hausa Ina sonki Hawaiian Aloha wau 'ia oe Hebrew Ani ohev otach (male to female) Ani ohev otcha (male to male) Ani ohevet otach (female to female) Ani ohevet otcha (female to male) Hindi Mai tumase pyar karata hun (male to female) Mai tumase pyar karati hun (female to male) Main Tumse Prem Karta Hoon Mai Tumhe Pyar Karta Hoon Main Tumse Pyar Karta Hoon Mai Tumse Peyar Karta Hnu Mai tumse pyar karta hoo Hokkien Wa ai lu Hopi Nu' umi unangwa'ta American Indian Hungarian Szeretlek Szeretlek te'ged Icelandic Eg elska thig Indi Mai Tujhe Pyaar Kartha Ho Indonesian Saya cinta padamu (Saya, commonly used) Saya cinta kamu ( " ) Saya kasih saudari ( " ) Aku tjinta padamu (Aku, not often used) Aku cinta padamu ( " ) Aku cinta kamu ( " ) Iranian Mahn doostaht doh-rahm Irish taim i' ngra leat Italian ti amo (if it's a relationship/lover/spouse) ti voglio bene (if it's a friend, or relative) Japanese Kimi o ai shi*eru Aish*eru Chuu shi*eyo Ora omee no koto ga suki da Ore wa omae ga suki da Suitonnen Sukiyanen Sukiyo Watashi Wa Anata Ga Suki Desu Watashi Wa Anata Wo Ai####he Imasu Watakushi-wa anata-wo ai shimasu Suki desu (used at 1st time, like for a start, when you are not yet real lovers) Javanese Kulo tresno Kannada Naanu Ninnanu Preethisuthene Naanu Ninnanu Mohisuthene Kiswahili Nakupenda Korean No-rul sarang hae (man to woman in casual relationship) Tangsinul sarang ha yo Tangshin-ul sarang hae-yo Tangsinul Sarang Ha Yo Tangshin-i cho-a-yo (i like you, in a romantic way) Nanun tangshinul sarang hamnida Nanun Dangsineul Mucheog Joahapnida Nanun Dangsineul Saranghapnida Nanun Gdaega Joa Nanun Gdaereul Saranghapnida Nanun Neoreul Saranghanda Gdaereul Hjanghan Naemaeum Alji Joahaeyo Saranghae Saranghaeyo Saranghapanida Kurdish Ez te hezdikhem (?) Lao Koi muk jao Khoi huk chau Latin Te amo Vos amo (old) (Ego) amo te (ego, for emphasis) Latvian Es milu tevi (Pronounced "Ess tevy meeloo") Lebanese Bahibak Lingala Nalingi yo Lisbon lingo gramo-te bue', chavalinha Lithuanian TAVE MYLIU (ta-ve mee-lyu) Lojban mi do prami Luo Aheri Macedonian SAKAM TE! Madrid lingo Me molas, tronca Malay Saya cintakan mu Saya sayangkan mu Malay/ Indonesian Saya sayangkan engkau Saya cintakan awak Malayalam Njyaan Ninne' Preetikyunnu Njyaan Ninne' Mohikyunnu. Ngan Ninne Snaehikkunnu Malaysian Saya Cintamu Saya Sayangmu Saya Cinta Kamu Mandarin Wo ai ni (Wo3 ai4 ni3 in tonal notation) Chinese Marathi me tujhashi prem karto (male to female) me tujhashi prem karte (female to male) Mi tuzya var prem karato Mohawk Konoronhkwa American Indian Navaho Ayor anosh'ni American Indian Ndebele Niyakutanda Norwegian Eg elskar deg (Nynorsk) Jeg elsker deg (Bokmaal) (pronouncedyai elske dai) Op Op Lopveop Yopuop Pakistani Mujhe Tumse Muhabbat Hai Persian Tora dost daram Pig Latin Ie Ovele Ouye Polish Kocham Cie Ja cie kocham Yacha kocham Kocham Ciebie Portuguese Amo-te (brazilian) Eu te amo Punjabi Mai taunu pyar karda Main Tainu Pyar Karna Quenya Tye-mela'ne Romanian Te iu besc Te Ador Russian Ya vas liubli Ya tebya liubliu Ya polubeel s'tebya (malincaya) Ya Tibieh Lublue Scot Gaelic Tha gra\dh agam ort Serbian Ljubim te "means to kiss you" Ya te volim "I love you" or Volim te "I love you" Thanks to tanya karlovic for corrections Serbocroatian Volim te Ljubim te Shona Ndinokuda American Indian Sinhalese Mama oyata adarei Sioux Techihhila American Indian Slovak lubim ta Slovene ljubim te Spanish Te quiero Te amo Srilankan Mama Oyata Arderyi Swahili Naku penda (followed by the person's name) Swedish Jag a"lskar dig Swiss - German Ch'ha di ga"rn Syrian/ Lebanese BHEBBEK (to a female) BHEBBAK (to a male) Tagalog Mahal kita Phillipines Tahitian Ua Here Vau Ia Oe Tamil Ni yaanai kaadli karen (You love me) n^An unnaik kAthalikkinREn (I love you) Naan Unnai Kadalikiren Tcheque MILUJI TE^ Telugu Neenu ninnu pra'mistu'nnanu Telugu/ india Nenu Ninnu Premistunnanu Thai Phom Rak Khun (formal, male to female) Ch'an Rak Khun (formal, female to male) Khao Raak Thoe (affectionate, sweet, loving) Phom Rak Khun Tunisian Ha eh bak * Turkish Seni seviyo*rum (o* means o) Seni Seviyurum Seni Seviyorum Turkmen Men seny soyarin Ukrainian ja tebe koKHAju (real true love) ja vas koKHAju ja pokoKHAv tebe ja pokoKHAv vas Urdu Mujhe tumse mohabbat hai Main Tumse Muhabbat Karta Hoon Uzbek Man seni sevaman Vietnamese Em ye^u anh (woman to man) Toi yeu em Anh ye^u em (man to woman)
Vlaams Ik hou van je Ik zie je graag Thanks Thierry Boeve for correction! Welsh 'Rwy'n dy garu di. Yr wyf i yn dy garu di (chwi) Yiddish Ich libe dich Ich han dich lib Ikh Hob Dikh Lib Yugoslavian Ya te volim Zazi Ezhele hezdege (sp?) Zulu Mena Tanda Wena Ngiyakuthanda! Tom ho' ichema
Proactive people make love a verb. Love is something you do: the sacrifices you make, the giving of self, like a mother bringing a newborn into the world. If you want to study love, study those who sacrifice for others, even for people who offend or do not love in return. If you are a parent, look at the love you have for the children you sacrificed for. Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions. Proactive people subordinate feelings to values. Love, the feeling, can be recaptured.
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