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 Re: Polygamy in Sudan (Re: Muna Khugali)
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Dear All, it has been and still is, very difficult to access the board, hope you are all fine.
I continue to add to my contribuion and here we focus on rural women and polygamy
Polygamy for many Sudanese women especially in the rural areas is not considered a stigma that women fear. The majority of women of course are not happy to accept polygamy, but they accept it because they learn through life it is a religious right given to the man by God. The different cultures prevalent in rural society support this belief, especially when polygamy is normally practiced in the family. In rural areas of Sudan like in the other rural areas of most of Muslim countries and many of non-Islamic African countries, polygamy is considered the ultimate right of the man, and women should not even think of complaining against it. Men who practice polygamy defend their positions by using religion or customs. Polygamy is still strong even when religion is not directly involved; sometimes customs and traditions are stronger than religion.
One of my Sudanese female friends in a polygamous marriage, from the south explained to me that her position as the first wife gives her the authority to choose the new wife for her husband and all the other wives that might follow. As a result, she may take rest from heavy family obligations. This new position gives her also a higher social status within the tribe because she is able to command the whole set of wives and children, who would spontaneously pay great respect and obedience to her. The first wife enjoys privileges that are supported by society to reward her for her understanding position. The first wife’s selection of the subsequent wives is based on the new bride’ ability to give her husband more children, it depends on her young age, her good conduct, health and beauty. She must be able to carry out the heavy domestic work, such as fetching water from the well, cooking for the extended family, taking care of children and animals while giving birth to children. For the first wife, polygamy is a solution, it is needed to support her and reduce her burdens, to provide her with the time to take care of herself, and exercise more control over the new wives, while remaining loved by her husband and appreciated for choosing for him other beautiful, young and fulfilling wives. Then polygamy is helping both men and women and within this context women are accepting it. The obedience of women to men is indications of the good background of women. However, all Sudanese cultures, Islamic or non Islamic expect the obedience and subordination of women to men and this is done under the names of different values. Of course this would also vary from one class to another. For many women being seen polite and obedient is a source of pride for them and at the same time it provides them with security.
hope to come back soon,
Muna
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الكاتب |
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| Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-23-04, 01:29 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | قلقو | 12-23-04, 01:51 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-23-04, 02:13 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Ishraga Mustafa | 12-23-04, 02:21 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-23-04, 03:13 AM |
 Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Halema2 | 12-23-04, 03:11 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-23-04, 03:35 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | قلقو | 12-23-04, 04:00 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-23-04, 06:17 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | أحمد الشايقي | 12-23-04, 09:17 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-23-04, 04:18 PM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | عبدالناصر معتصم | 12-23-04, 07:47 PM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-23-04, 10:40 PM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Mohamed Elbashir | 12-23-04, 09:27 PM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-23-04, 10:59 PM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | عبدالناصر معتصم | 12-24-04, 00:51 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-24-04, 09:28 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | عبدالناصر معتصم | 12-24-04, 08:35 PM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Hisham Amin | 12-24-04, 01:51 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-24-04, 03:52 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | عبدالناصر معتصم | 12-24-04, 06:34 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-24-04, 11:04 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-24-04, 11:45 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-25-04, 00:51 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-25-04, 08:46 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-27-04, 06:19 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | عبدالناصر معتصم | 12-27-04, 11:41 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-27-04, 02:45 PM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | عبدالناصر معتصم | 12-28-04, 00:19 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | عبدالناصر معتصم | 12-28-04, 02:52 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | عبدالناصر معتصم | 12-28-04, 11:59 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | محمد حامد جمعه | 12-28-04, 12:08 PM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Omer Abdalla | 12-28-04, 12:31 PM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-29-04, 06:06 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-31-04, 08:51 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-31-04, 09:08 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | خضر عطا المنان | 12-31-04, 09:57 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 12-31-04, 10:10 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 01-08-05, 12:21 PM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | عبدالناصر معتصم | 01-08-05, 05:35 PM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Abdel Aati | 01-14-05, 08:39 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | manubia | 01-14-05, 10:33 AM |
| Re: Polygamy in Sudan | Muna Khugali | 01-14-05, 01:36 PM |
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