The Great thing called "love"

The Great thing called "love"


03-12-2002, 10:41 PM


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Post: #1
Title: The Great thing called "love"
Author: Asal2
Date: 03-12-2002, 10:41 PM

((((((LOOOOOOOVE))))))))

Passionate love which involves continuously thinking about the loved one and also involves warm sexual feelings and powerful emotional reactions.
Companionate love is having trusting and tender feelings for someone who is close to you.

Passion, the feeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.

Passion is what makes you feel "in love" and is the feeling most associated with love. It also rises quickly and strongly influences and biases your judgment.

Intimacy, the feeling close and connected to someone (developed through sharing and very good communications over time).

Intimacy is what makes you want to share and offer emotional and material support to each other.

Commitment, pledging to your self and each other to strengthen the feelings of love and to actively maintain the relationship.

Commitment is what makes you want to be serious, have a serious relationship and promise to be there for the other person if things get tough.

Is there love at first sight?

This is when we are overwhelmed by passion, without any intimacy or commitment (both of which take time). this infatuated love, Because there is not intimacy or commitment, infatuated love is fated to fade away.

Why do some people get married after being in love for a very short time?

This is a combination of passion and commitment, but without any intimacy. This is where two people make a commitment to each other based on their passion. Unless intimacy develops over time, this relationship most likely will end.








Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing, And your voice caught within your chest?

It isn't Love, it's Like.
You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right?

It isn't Love, it's Lust.
Are you proud, and eager to show them off?

It isn't Love, it's Luck.
Do you want them because you know they're there?

It isn't Love, it's Loneliness.
Are you there because it's what everyone wants?

It isn't Love, it's Loyalty.
Do you stay for their confessions of Love, because you don't want to hurt them?

It isn't Love, it's Pity.
Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?

It isn't Love, it's being Unconfident.
Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?

It isn't Love, it's Infatuation.
Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?

It isn't Love, it's Friendship.
Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of?

It isn't Love, it's a Lie.
Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake?

It isn't Love, it's Charity.
Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?

Then it's Love.
Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret?

Then it's Love.
Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?

Then it's Love.
Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?

Then it's Love.
Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?

Then it's Love.
But do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and elation pulls you close and holds you?

Then it's Love.
Would you give them your heart, your life, your death?

Then it's Love.



Now, if Love is painful, and tortures us so,
why do we Love?
Why is it all we search for in life?
This pain, this agony?
Why is it all we long for?
This torture, this powerful death of self?
Why?
Because it's...
Love

(((SOME SIGNS OF TRUE LOVE))))


You get joy from making your love happy.


You have no interest in others who would normally attract you.



When you long to be in your love's arms every second of the day.



It actually feels like your feelings are physically coming from your heart.



When you think of your love and smile no matter how hard your day has been.



You see your love with all their imperfections, yet know they are perfect for you.





(((((Overcoming a Broken Heart ))))

Step One:

Allow yourself time to heal, and know that you can heal. Whether the loss is due to death, rejection, or other reason.
It is normal to grieve over a loss of a love for any reason.
It usually takes two to three years for a couple whose relationship has broken up to begin to put their lives back together again. It sometimes takes five years for individuals and families to get over the emotional pain and trauma. Many people can have serious health and emotional problems during this time.

Step Two:

Realize that you still can find happiness.
Realize that you can control how you think, what you think about, and how much.
A key is to concentrate on the positives you have in the present. Not thinking about the future or past.
Healing Helpers

Being around people and getting involved in helping others is a good way to accelerate the proces of healing.
Laughing helps too, so see a comedy, watch funny things. That is part of the reason the Irish have a party when someone passes away.
Helping others helps you loose sight of your own losses


Step Three:

Activily work to feel better.
Act happy and smile. Even if you don't feel that way, it should start to make you feel that way.
Life will be better.If you love something...let it go, if it comes back to you it was truly meant to be.


When one door of happiness closes, another opens:
but often we look so long at the closed door
that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.


((((Arguments and fighting in a relationship))))



How you argue when in a relationship can determine if you have a relationship that falls apart or lasts.
Things to avoid when arguing or fighting with your relationship partner:

criticism,
contempt,
defensiveness and stonewalling (withdrawing from talking)
Good things to use in an argument:

Using humor to break tension in an argument.
Expressions of affection for your partner.
Acknowledge your partners point of view.
Two key things about a relationship:

It is important to build and maintain a FRIENDSHIP in your relationship and that you give your partner the benefit of the doubt when times are tough... namely TRUST!
You have a choice of either saying something that will nurture or rip up your relationship every time... think before you speak!




Ways to say "I LOVE YOU" in many languages

Here are the ways to say "I love you" in many languages.
LANGUAGE I LOVE YOU COMMENTS
Afrikaans Ek het jou liefe
Ek is lief vir jou
Albanian te dua
te dashuroj
Alentejano Gosto De Ti, Porra! Portugal
Alsacien Ich hoan dich gear
Amharic Afekrishalehou
Arabic Ana Behibak (to a male)
Ana Behibek (to a female)
Ib'n hebbak.
Ana Ba-heb-bak
nhebuk
Ohiboke (male to female)
Ohiboka (female to male)
Ohibokoma (male or female to two males or two females)
Nohiboke (more than one male or female to female)
Nohiboka (male to male or female to male)
Nohibokoma (m. to m. or f. to two males or two females)
Nohibokom (m. to m. or f. to more than two males)
Nohibokon (m. to m. or f. to more than two females)
(not standard) Bahibak (female to male)
(not standard) Bahibik (male to female)
(not standard) Benhibak (more than one male or female to male)
(not standard) Benhibik (male to male or female to female)
(not standard) Benhibkom (m. to m. or female to more than one male)
Armenian Siroum em kez Thanks Mike
Assamese Moi tomak bhal pau
Basc Nere Maitea
Batak Holong rohangku di ho
Bavarian I mog di narrisch gern
Bengali Ami tomAy bhAlobAshi
Ami tomake bhalobashi.
Berber Lakh tirikh
Bicol Namumutan ta ka
Bolivian Quechua qanta munani
Bulgarian Obicham te
Burmese chit pa de
Cambodian Bon sro lanh oon
kh_nhaum soro_lahn nhee_ah
Canadian French Sh'teme (spoken, sounds like this)
Cantonese Moi oiy neya
Ngo oi ney Chinese
Catalan T'estim (mallorcan)
T'estim molt (I love you a lot)
T'estime (valencian)
T'estimo (catalonian)
Cebuano Gihigugma ko ikaw.
Chickasaw chiholloli (first "i" nasalized) American Indian
Chinese (see the entries for mandarin or cantonese!)
Corsican Ti tengu cara (to female)
Ti tengu caru (to male)
Croatian & Serbian Ljubim te "means to kiss you"
Ya te volim "I love you"
or
Volim te "I love you" Thanks to tanya karlovic for corrections
Czech miluji te
MILUJU TE! (colloquial form)
Danish Jeg elsker dig
Dutch Ik hou van jou
Ik ben verliefd op je
Ecuador Quechua canda munani
English I love you
Esperanto Mi amas vin
Estonian Mina armastan sind
Ma armastan sind
Farsi Tora dust midaram
Asheghetam
(Persian) doostat dAram
Filipino Mahal ki ta
Iniibig Kita
Finnish Mina" rakastan sinua
Flemish Ik zie oe geerne
French Je t'aime
Je t'adore

Friesian Ik hald fan dei
Gaelic Ta gra agam ort
German Ich liebe Dich
Greek s'ayapo (spoken s'agapo, 3rd letter is lower case'gamma')
(old) (Ego) philo su (ego is only needed for emphasis)
Greenlandic Asavakit
Gujrati Hoon tane pyar karoochhoon.
Hausa Ina sonki
Hawaiian Aloha wau 'ia oe
Hebrew Ani ohev otach (male to female)
Ani ohev otcha (male to male)
Ani ohevet otach (female to female)
Ani ohevet otcha (female to male)
Hindi Mai tumase pyar karata hun (male to female)
Mai tumase pyar karati hun (female to male)
Main Tumse Prem Karta Hoon
Mai Tumhe Pyar Karta Hoon
Main Tumse Pyar Karta Hoon
Mai Tumse Peyar Karta Hnu
Mai tumse pyar karta hoo
Hokkien Wa ai lu
Hopi Nu' umi unangwa'ta American Indian
Hungarian Szeretlek
Szeretlek te'ged
Icelandic Eg elska thig
Indi Mai Tujhe Pyaar Kartha Ho
Indonesian Saya cinta padamu (Saya, commonly used)
Saya cinta kamu ( " )
Saya kasih saudari ( " )
Aku tjinta padamu (Aku, not often used)
Aku cinta padamu ( " )
Aku cinta kamu ( " )
Iranian Mahn doostaht doh-rahm
Irish taim i' ngra leat
Italian ti amo (if it's a relationship/lover/spouse)
ti voglio bene (if it's a friend, or relative)
Japanese Kimi o ai shi*eru
Aish*eru
Chuu shi*eyo
Ora omee no koto ga suki da
Ore wa omae ga suki da
Suitonnen
Sukiyanen
Sukiyo
Watashi Wa Anata Ga Suki Desu
Watashi Wa Anata Wo Ai####he Imasu
Watakushi-wa anata-wo ai shimasu
Suki desu (used at 1st time, like for a start, when you are not yet real lovers)
Javanese Kulo tresno
Kannada Naanu Ninnanu Preethisuthene
Naanu Ninnanu Mohisuthene
Kiswahili Nakupenda
Korean No-rul sarang hae (man to woman in casual relationship)
Tangsinul sarang ha yo
Tangshin-ul sarang hae-yo
Tangsinul Sarang Ha Yo
Tangshin-i cho-a-yo (i like you, in a romantic way)
Nanun tangshinul sarang hamnida
Nanun Dangsineul Mucheog Joahapnida
Nanun Dangsineul Saranghapnida
Nanun Gdaega Joa
Nanun Gdaereul Saranghapnida
Nanun Neoreul Saranghanda
Gdaereul Hjanghan Naemaeum Alji
Joahaeyo
Saranghae
Saranghaeyo
Saranghapanida
Kurdish Ez te hezdikhem (?)
Lao Koi muk jao
Khoi huk chau
Latin Te amo
Vos amo
(old) (Ego) amo te (ego, for emphasis)
Latvian Es milu tevi (Pronounced "Ess tevy meeloo")
Lebanese Bahibak
Lingala Nalingi yo
Lisbon lingo gramo-te bue', chavalinha
Lithuanian TAVE MYLIU (ta-ve mee-lyu)
Lojban mi do prami
Luo Aheri
Macedonian SAKAM TE!
Madrid lingo Me molas, tronca
Malay Saya cintakan mu
Saya sayangkan mu
Malay/ Indonesian Saya sayangkan engkau
Saya cintakan awak
Malayalam Njyaan Ninne' Preetikyunnu
Njyaan Ninne' Mohikyunnu.
Ngan Ninne Snaehikkunnu
Malaysian Saya Cintamu
Saya Sayangmu
Saya Cinta Kamu
Mandarin Wo ai ni (Wo3 ai4 ni3 in tonal notation) Chinese
Marathi me tujhashi prem karto (male to female)
me tujhashi prem karte (female to male)
Mi tuzya var prem karato
Mohawk Konoronhkwa American Indian
Navaho Ayor anosh'ni American Indian
Ndebele Niyakutanda
Norwegian Eg elskar deg (Nynorsk)
Jeg elsker deg (Bokmaal) (pronouncedyai elske dai)
Op Op Lopveop Yopuop
Pakistani Mujhe Tumse Muhabbat Hai
Persian Tora dost daram
Pig Latin Ie Ovele Ouye
Polish Kocham Cie
Ja cie kocham
Yacha kocham
Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese Amo-te
(brazilian) Eu te amo
Punjabi Mai taunu pyar karda
Main Tainu Pyar Karna
Quenya Tye-mela'ne
Romanian Te iu besc
Te Ador
Russian Ya vas liubli
Ya tebya liubliu
Ya polubeel s'tebya
(malincaya) Ya Tibieh Lublue
Scot Gaelic Tha gra\dh agam ort
Serbian Ljubim te "means to kiss you"
Ya te volim "I love you"
or
Volim te "I love you" Thanks to tanya karlovic for corrections
Serbocroatian Volim te
Ljubim te
Shona Ndinokuda American Indian
Sinhalese Mama oyata adarei
Sioux Techihhila American Indian
Slovak lubim ta
Slovene ljubim te
Spanish Te quiero
Te amo
Srilankan Mama Oyata Arderyi
Swahili Naku penda (followed by the person's name)
Swedish Jag a"lskar dig
Swiss - German Ch'ha di ga"rn
Syrian/ Lebanese BHEBBEK (to a female)
BHEBBAK (to a male)
Tagalog Mahal kita Phillipines
Tahitian Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil Ni yaanai kaadli karen (You love me)
n^An unnaik kAthalikkinREn (I love you)
Naan Unnai Kadalikiren
Tcheque MILUJI TE^
Telugu Neenu ninnu pra'mistu'nnanu
Telugu/ india Nenu Ninnu Premistunnanu
Thai Phom Rak Khun (formal, male to female)
Ch'an Rak Khun (formal, female to male)
Khao Raak Thoe (affectionate, sweet, loving)
Phom Rak Khun
Tunisian Ha eh bak *
Turkish Seni seviyo*rum (o* means o)
Seni Seviyurum
Seni Seviyorum
Turkmen Men seny soyarin
Ukrainian ja tebe koKHAju (real true love)
ja vas koKHAju
ja pokoKHAv tebe
ja pokoKHAv vas
Urdu Mujhe tumse mohabbat hai
Main Tumse Muhabbat Karta Hoon
Uzbek Man seni sevaman
Vietnamese Em ye^u anh (woman to man)
Toi yeu em
Anh ye^u em (man to woman)

Vlaams Ik hou van je
Ik zie je graag Thanks Thierry Boeve for correction!
Welsh 'Rwy'n dy garu di.
Yr wyf i yn dy garu di (chwi)
Yiddish Ich libe dich
Ich han dich lib
Ikh Hob Dikh Lib
Yugoslavian Ya te volim
Zazi Ezhele hezdege (sp?)
Zulu Mena Tanda Wena
Ngiyakuthanda!
Tom ho' ichema






Proactive people make love a verb. Love is something you do: the sacrifices you make, the giving of self, like a mother bringing a newborn into the world. If you want to study love, study those who sacrifice for others, even for people who offend or do not love in return. If you are a parent, look at the love you have for the children you sacrificed for. Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions. Proactive people subordinate feelings to values. Love, the feeling, can be recaptured.

Post: #2
Title: Re: The Great thing called "love"
Author: قرشـــو
Date: 03-13-2002, 08:38 AM
Parent: #1

بتنا عسل
وينك يا ستى وكيفك مع الغربة وكيف الاهل معاك
Is there love at first sight?

قبل ان نتعلم كلمة احبك بكل لغات العالم علينا ان نجيب على تساؤلك اعلاه..
وبعدين انا زمان قلت ليك ليه ما قادرة تكتبى عربى ؟؟؟ مع انك بتقرى عربى كويس..
بس عشان الناس يتفاعلوا معاك اكثر فانت فعلا رائعة ومواضيعك مفيدة جدا..

Post: #3
Title: Re: The Great thing called "love"
Author: Asal2
Date: 03-13-2002, 05:10 PM
Parent: #2

walahi ya gorsho aiwa ana ba3rif agra bas ma bosor3a kida..lool wal kitaba bita3ti ma kwajsa shadeed ya3ni fil sentence al wa7eed bitalga 100 galtat..lol wa ana itwaladta fi euroba wa ya3ni bakhod classes mara fil osbo3 li modat sa3a wa7da wa da tab3an barra al madrasa...ya3ni ba7awil bi godrati kolaha ini at3alam 3arabi tamam wa allah kareeem

god bless u